We asked members of the BuzzFeed
Community to tell us how they treat themselves after a
bad day. Here are some of their responses.
acts of kindness.
I log out of every single intrusive media (Facebook, Twitter,
TV, news) then I leave the house, and I find someone to do
something nice for. I bought another table’s breakfast two
weekends ago. I buy gift cards at the coffee place and tell
the cashier to use them to buy people’s drinks until the
money’s gone. I put fivers in the pockets of jeans at the
mall. I go walk dogs at the shelter. I do nice things for a
world that needs nice things because I believe that’s how to
fix the world – through small, surprising joys.
– Madonna Kilpatrick-Kielion, Facebook
2. Post a
I sometimes find posting an anxiety-related joke or subtle
meme about being down on Facebook. It resonates with other
people and often they’ll come out the woodwork commenting and
messaging you. As strange as this is, it’s kind of healing to
realise how many other people are in the same boat as you.
Often the comments and your openness can end up lifting not
only your own mood but also theirs, and it’s oddly
Literature. It might be escapist, but good grief, books will
save us all.
– Michael J Ritchie, Facebook
4. Cry it
If I’ve been driven to the point where I want to just scream,
I’d recommend just going to a quiet place and just crying
your worries out. If you can’t do that, I’d get out a piece
of paper and draw a really remote and calming setting. Then
I’d envision myself literally screaming in that safe place.
It may sound extreme and almost insane, but actually letting
your emotions run free helps you feel better instead of
keeping them bottled up inside.
Painting has done me good amid stress and general awfulness.
I’m not good at it and have no technique to speak of. But
mixing my colours and putting them on a canvas and creating
something shuts out whatever else is going on in my life or
in my head. It’s better than anything else I’ve ever tried.
It’s soothing and makes the time fly by. After an hour or two
I feel so much calmer and more grounded.
– Bethany Harbison, Facebook
for a walk.
When I’m feeling down I go for a walk without any headphones
or phone and I just enjoy the gorgeousness of the city. When
I’m tired I sit on a bench and I enjoy watching life – for
example, when I see two lovers kissing lovingly it makes me
so happy – or I just wait to feel the wind or the sun on my
face to feel alive. I also smile a lot to people I meet in
the subway or in the street, and I try to help the ones who
need help and they smile back and it’s awesome. While walking
I think about nothing. My mind is just blank and I just
observe people and I love it, and when I’m lost in my
thoughts, I try to tell myself how lucky I am for so many
– Perez Julie, Facebook
down what makes you smile.
A couple of months after my mum died I wrote a list of 366
things that make me smile, on the basis that if I could find
that many reasons to smile then, there will always be
something to smile for. I wrote silly things, like blankets,
sitting on swings in a park, letting someone out in front of
you when driving, dipping my feet in a swimming pool on
holiday, dancing like an idiot, hearing the song you love on
around children you love.
I spend time with my daughters. It’s funny how being around
my kids makes me forget about the bad in the world; sometimes
you just need to play Barbies or do some crafts and forget
– Christina Oey, Facebook
Finding new things to do that don’t involve people. I ordered
an adult coloring book full of curse words, I’m learning to
crochet, and I volunteer at the animal shelter.
– Angela Christine, Facebook
Pride and Prejudice.
I watch Pride and Prejudice, either the 2005 version
or the Colin Firth version, and eat more cookies than
– Neelam Patel, Facebook
I’ll put on one of my favourite TV series on Netflix and I’ll
sit knitting. Everything that was on my mind just gets
cleared away ! If it’s been an extra stressful day I’ll have
a few cups of tea.
I am binge-reading/watching/listening to Harry Potter. All
the books, films, and audiobooks I can get my hands on. The
nostalgia, beautiful story, and bravery of the characters in
times of utter shite are so heartening. Watching Fantastic
Beasts and Where to Find Them healed my fractured horcrux
of a soul.
time with pets.
I spend time with my cats and watch Parks and
Recreation. Simple but effective.
14. Work it
The stronger my desire is to nap, eat desserts, or wallow in
sorrow, the stronger I know I have to be to get myself to the
gym and have a bomb workout. I always feel better after
running, lifting, moving, and sweating for a while. And then
if I still want to eat comfort food and relax when I get
home, I don’t feel so bad about it!
wine, and a hot bath.
Buy a large or extra large pizza, take a bottle of wine, take
a hot, bubbly bath, and light up some candles. Then I rewatch
Orange Is the New Black.
Chocolate in bed.
I have a lie-in and at some point eat crisps and chocolate in
the little things.
I have recently had a very hard time with my mental health
and even getting out of bed can be hard, never mind leaving
the house. However, self-care can be something as small as
cleaning, or showering with your favourite products, or
drinking copious amounts of tea. If you can get the
motivation together (I have had tiny amounts recently) then
honestly light exercise does help, although we all know this
isn’t possible if you’re mid-crisis.
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